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September/October 2008 Should I Night Wean My Toddler? Q: My two-year-old is still waking up a few times each night to breastfeed. She sleeps next to me in our family bed. I am expecting another baby and am really needing my sleep. Can I wean my toddler from night nursing without causing her emotional harm? How do I do that? A: Yes, it is possible to gently guide a two-year-old to wean from night nursing. Emotional harm is only possible when the child doubts her value in the first place. What makes human wee-ones resilient is their knowledge that they are worthy and cared for. They can then handle varied situations and emotions while staying rooted in this self-assurance.
Your question makes clear that your daughter is loved and cared for with prompt responsiveness. Nursing at night into the third year is not a primal need. Her sleeping needs are met; you are right next to her, she knows her worth and is safe and cared for. She is not going to lose this sense of security due to night weaning. Although I love child-directed weaning, night or day, I have learned through years of counseling parents to relinquish dogma and to respond to circumstances in the kindest possible way. With more than one child, a well rested mother can be more valuable to the child’s development than night nursing. Our perfect intentions are sometimes not possible. Yet, there is always more than one loving answer to the surprises we encounter in parenting. Will My Child Cry? Many attachment mothers believe that a child should never cry. This is not true, not possible and not beneficial. Babies cry to communicate needs and we meet those needs. Toddlers have wants that are not always primal needs and we cannot supply all these wants. Crying is a way for the child to... To read the rest of this article, subscribe to Natural Life's online edition.
Naomi Aldort is the author of Raising Our Children, Raising Ourselves: Transforming parent-child relationships from reaction and struggle to freedom, power and joy |
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